I am finding if and when a person recognizes that they are in a spiritual abusive situation this is only the first step. Now begins the difficult work of untangling from the system. This usually means leaving the unhealthy system behind. Unless leaders are willing to recognize they are part of the problem, the cycle will continue to perpetuate itself. This will infest itself within it's families and throughout the generations of the organizations.To those within the system, they are the healthy one's and all others are not. It is common when it gets to this point for a spiritual arrogance and superiority to be present within those in the organization. It becomes we against them.
According to the authors of the book I mention the no talk rule usually exists. From page 68; The "can't talk" rule,, however blames the person who talks, and the ensuing punishments pressure questioners into silence. I compare this tactic to a book I read about the power of shunning a person. It does have power and at the same time it kills. It kills the heart of a person(s).
To counter this Neil Andersen's Freedom In Christ material is a great place to start with someone coming out of this environment. Along with prayer the person can eventually live the life that Christ gives to them.
Read Galatians 5; Freedom In Christ.
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